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Letter from the President
Dear NSLS Member,
Three brothers are locked in a cell and awaiting their fate. With no hope of escape, the eldest announces his captors will not see him beg for mercy. He is mocked by his younger brother. “You fool… as if the way one falls down matters.” His brother’s reply, in the face of certain demise, “when the fall is all there is…it matters.”
This scene from The Lion in Winter (1968) illustrates an unfortunate and sometimes uncomfortable truth about leadership. Leadership can be glorious. Leadership always begins with the promise of victory. In movies, enemies are ultimately vanquished, love always triumphs, and the protagonist emerges victorious. However, in the real world, leaders make incorrect choices or face circumstances beyond their control. A hurricane cannot be fought off. A fire cannot be stopped through sheer force of will. The truth is, leaders can fail and failing can be painful.
Failure, like pain, can be healthy when lessons are learned from it. In the challenges you face and goals you strive to achieve, failure can teach you how to be better. If you succeed at every endeavor, you have likely not risked enough, often enough, for great enough rewards. If you succeed all the time, you were likely capable of more.
What you do when faced with imminent defeat will reveal your character both to yourself and those you lead. Will you get upset? Will you make excuses? Excuses are easy. Excuses are comforting. Excuses can be valid. Yet excuses are often merely an aid to avoid the truth.
When you fail, first, congratulate yourself. Failure is how you grow, and you failed because you did not become complacent resting on your successes. Failure is how we get better. You dared for better things. Secondly, look inward, rather than outward. “What could I have done differently?” is a helpful question to ask. “Whose fault is this other than mine?” is not. Thirdly, do not dwell or linger on the mistake you made. Examine your mistakes and draw conclusions, but do not hate yourself. Accept that it is part of the growing process, part of the learning process, and part of what will make you better.
The National Society of Leadership and Success
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― Arnold Glasow
“You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.”
― Woodrow Wilson
By: Dave Nevogt
1. Acknowledge your feelings.
Failures, mistakes, and adversity are hard to deal with, and they can bring feelings of anger, frustration, and disappointment. The first step is allowing yourself to feel these things. Denying what you’re feeling isn’t going to help anything, but neither is wallowing in those emotions. So, it’s a difficult but important balance you must strike between having a healthy, human reaction and then letting go before those negative emotions drag your productivity and efficacy down.
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